Private Pay or Insurance for Therapy?

Private Pay or Insurance for Therapy?

Private Pay or Insurance for Therapy?

As a therapist, my primary goal is to provide you with the best possible care.

I have chosen not to work directly with insurance companies for several important reasons. Understanding how insurance works and its drawbacks can help you see why paying out of pocket can be more beneficial for your therapeutic journey.

How Insurance Works for Therapy

When you use insurance for therapy, you will want to consider certain factors that come into play. Please contact your insurance directly for specific steps if you would like to find a therapist within your insurance network.

Diagnosis Requirement

Insurance companies require a mental health diagnosis that meets the full diagnostic criteria to cover therapy sessions for you to pay a co-pay.

You may be feeling anxious or depressed but you may not qualify for the full diagnostic criteria needed for a diagnosis because you are feeling down, sad and fatigued but still able to function fine at work or you have being feeling anxious in your relationship but it has not been half a year yet and your anxiety is not generalized to other areas of your life. A diagnosis may not reflect your true needs. You may be seeking therapy for reasons that do not qualify for a diagnosis such as help navigating significant relationships including your partner, family or friends, recovering from a break-up, goal planning such as career counseling, uncovering life meaning and purpose, seeking personal development and growth, focusing on your overall health and wellbeing.

Limited Sessions & Types of Treatment

Insurance often limits the number of sessions you can have, which can hinder progress, especially for those needing long-term support. Insurance can also limit the type of treatment that you receive to certain methods that are easy to research such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is an effective structured treatment for many and can be beneficial, but it may not be the treatment for everyone. Those who want a less structured approach may prefer Person-Centered therapy, which may not be covered by insurance. Insurance request progress notes and may deem for you the amount of sessions they think is necessary for you to recover from a diagnosis such as depression or anxiety. You may be starting to feel better after a couple months of sessions and know you would benefit from more sessions to feel at your best, but insurance may decide that is enough treatment. You or your therapist can petition for more sessions but it can be an added stressor and the request may be denied.

By choosing to a private pay therapist, you may have treatment as long as you and your therapist, who knows you and your unique situation and needs personally, determine that you are receiving benefits. You can have conversations with your therapist direction about how treatment is going and collaboratively decide when it is time to decrease frequency and complete therapy.

Privacy Concerns

Therapists must share detailed notes and private health information with insurance companies, compromising your confidentiality. Notes are required to be shared without notice to you, other than you initially signing a notice of privacy practices when you start therapy. The notes can be used to determine if insurance companies continue to accept your treatment. By going through insurance, you are authorizing insurance professionals to read your progress session notes that detail the goals, circumstances that bring you to treatment, interventions, your responses to treatment in therapy and what you generally report occurs outside of therapy. More detailed personal notes should be kept private and separate from insurance companies.

All therapists must follow mandated reporting state and federal laws including if you present as a potential danger to others or for child, depedent, and elder abuse, and therapists may breach confidentiality if you are a potential harm to yourself. Beyond the mandated and permitted reporting laws, with private pay therapists, what happens in the therapy room or Zoom, stays in the therapy room or Zoom.

Couple Therapy Challenges

Getting insurance to cover couple therapy is notoriously difficult. Many insurance plans do not cover it at all, making it inaccessible for couples seeking help. Relationship distress is not considered an individual mental health diagnosis and insurance companies rely on an individual diagnosis to cover your therapy sessions to demonstrate an individual mental health need. Sometimes, insurance companies will cover some sessions, although that is the exception and notes will likely be needed to demonstrate there is an individual mental health need. Even if you or your partner has a diagnosis of anxiety or depression, that may not qualify for coverage for couple therapy services and you would instead seek individual therapy to cover the diagnosis.

With all that in mind, it makes a lot of sense for couples seeking therapy to go with a private pay therapist that specializes in working with couples and has the expertise to assist you and your partner on working through the challenges you face.

Benefits of Paying Out of Pocket

Choosing to pay out of pocket for therapy comes with significant advantages that I want to reiterate:

Enhanced Privacy

Your therapy records remain strictly between you and your therapist, ensuring complete confidentiality, with the exception of when it is mandated and permitted to breach confidentiality.

No Diagnosis Needed

You can receive support without a mental health diagnosis for issues ranging from relationship and family challenges, to goal planning to finding purpose and fulfillment to personal growth to support with your holistic health.

I work with many clients who do not fit a qualified diagnosis and that receive great benefits from going to therapy to better themselves, their lives, and positively impact those around them.

Flexible and Personalized Care

Without insurance restrictions, therapy can be tailored to your specific needs, including the frequency and type of sessions, such as couple therapy.

As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I work with many couples to create more harmony and intimacy in their relationships and being a private pay therapist enables me to do this freely.

Access to High-Quality Therapists

Many experienced and specialized therapists choose not to work with insurance companies that may limit the type of therapeutic treatments offered. Paying out of pocket gives you access to a wider range of highly qualified professionals.

I have specialized education, training and experience studying spiritual psychology, training in meditation and yoga modalities, training and experience as a female empowerment and holistic coach, and specialized training for couples.

Why I Am an Out-of-Network (OON) Provider

As an out-of-network (OON) provider, I aim to offer you the benefits of insurance reimbursement while maintaining the flexibility and privacy of private pay therapy for those that qualify for a diagnosis. Here’s how it works:

Cost Savings

You can save on average 60% per session after meeting your PPO OON deductible.

Convenience

After your deductible is met, you won’t have to pay my full rate upfront. Thrizer allows you to only pay your co-insurance. They handle the reimbursement upfront and wait to receive the amount from your insurance company.

You can sign up to check your PPO OON benefits and learn more about how Thrizer can help at Thrizer.

Making Therapy Financially Approachable

I understand that therapy can be a financial commitment, so I offer several options to make it more accessible:

Sliding Scale Fees

I have a limited number of sliding scale fee spots based on what you can afford for weekly or biweekly sessions. You may qualify if you have a financial need, do not qualify for a diagnosis, and either do not have an insurance plan with OON benefits, or have a high deductible. Note that your fee may increase if your household income rises or if your health insurance changes.

Client Packages

For new clients who pay in full on the day of their first session, I offer a package that includes 3 free sessions. This package is available to you if you are not using OON benefits and do not qualify for sliding scale fees.

Choosing to pay out of pocket for therapy ensures that you receive the most personalized, confidential, and flexible care possible. By working together outside the constraints of insurance companies, we can focus entirely on your unique needs and goals. If you have any questions or want to discuss how these options can work for you, please feel free to reach out. Your mental health and well-being are my top priorities!

Breaking the Cycle: Understanding the Infinity Loop in Couple Therapy

Breaking the Cycle: Understanding the Infinity Loop in Couple Therapy

Breaking the Cycle: Understanding the Infinity Loop in Couple Therapy

I’ve encountered countless couples struggling with communication breakdowns, recurring conflicts, and a sense of being trapped in negative patterns.

In navigating these challenges, one powerful tool I often employ is Dr. Scott Woolley’s Infinity Loop model. This model provides a visual representation of how couples react to each other and employ coping behaviors that inadvertently perpetuate negative cycles within their relationship.

Imagine a loop, endlessly cycling through patterns of interaction, perpetuating conflict and dissatisfaction. This loop, according to Dr. Woolley, consists of four key stages: trigger, reaction, escalation, and withdrawal. Each stage feeds into the next, creating a self-reinforcing cycle that can feel impossible to break.

The first stage, the trigger, represents the initial event or behavior that sets off the cycle. This could be anything from a careless remark to a longstanding issue that resurfaces yet again. Whatever the trigger may be, it sparks a reaction from one or both partners, leading to the second stage: reaction.

In the reaction stage, individuals respond to the trigger in ways that are often automatic and deeply ingrained. These reactions can range from defensiveness and criticism to withdrawal and avoidance. Regardless of the specific response, it sets the stage for the third stage: escalation.

Escalation occurs as both partners become increasingly entrenched in their positions, intensifying their emotional responses and heightening the tension between them. This escalation only serves to reinforce the negative patterns within the relationship, pushing the couple further into the cycle.

Finally, the cycle culminates in the withdrawal stage, where one or both partners disengage from the interaction, either physically or emotionally. This withdrawal can take the form of silent treatment, emotional shutdown, or even walking away from the conversation altogether.

Breaking free from this infinity loop requires a fundamental shift in perspective and approach. The first step is to recognize that you are caught in this cycle. This awareness is crucial, as it allows both partners to step back and gain perspective on their interactions.

Once this awareness is established, the next step is to invite your partner to join you in stepping out of the cycle. This invitation is an acknowledgment of the shared responsibility in perpetuating the negative patterns within the relationship. It opens the door to constructive dialogue and collaboration in finding healthier ways of relating to each other.

Breaking the cycle outlined by Dr. Woolley’s Infinity Loop is not easy, but it is possible. It requires patience, commitment, and a willingness to explore new ways of interacting with your partner. Through open communication, empathy, and mutual respect, couples can begin to dismantle the barriers that keep them trapped in negative patterns and cultivate a relationship built on trust, understanding, and connection.

If you and your partner are struggling, reach out today to start moving out of your negative infinity loop and build deeper connection!

 

My Healing Journey & Why I Became a Therapist

My Healing Journey & Why I Became a Therapist

My Healing Journey & Why I Became a Therapist

 

This photo was taken when I was 13, a few weeks before my life changed forever. 

I grew up in Santa Monica, California. My mom provided a secure and safe connection and was my role model with her compassionate, empathetic, graceful, warm, and confident presence. She introduced me to a love of beach rollerblading, tennis, reading, meditation, and prayer. I experienced love, connection, safety, joy, play, beauty, and freedom in childhood.

In addition to all of the childhood joy, I also lived through scary and traumatic experiences. My mom was diagnosed with breast cancer a couple of years before I was born and relapsed several times throughout my childhood. She cared for me, worked in a male-dominated career as a financial advisor, read Deepak Chopra texts and mystery novels, and sometimes went to chemotherapy.

My mom passed on when I was 13, and I was suddenly alone in the world. At the time, I believed this meant I needed to go through life alone, rely on myself, and be strict with myself. I went to boarding school and channeled my grief by academically achieving, doing community service work, and journaling.

Going to therapy in high school helped me start to see that other loving people can support me. My therapist helped me alter my inner harsh dialogue that told me how nothing I did was ever good enough into a kinder and gentler internal dialogue. I eventually shared that I was lonely, which I had thought was weak to share, but saying it aloud created a shift. I realized I was not a failure or weak if I leaned on others, and maybe I didn’t have to live the rest of my life alone, hyper-independent, and closed off from others. This enabled me to start to open my heart to others.

Attending the University of Santa Monica was incredibly healing by getting in touch with and releasing my emotional grief that I had kept contained somewhere deep inside and by re-learning vulnerability as I honestly shared my story and was received by the most loving and non-judgmental facilitators. By numbing the grief, I had also blocked myself from experiencing the warmth of my heart. I felt such freedom after releasing my grief and limiting beliefs about myself and my experiences and then flooding my being with the utmost compassion to experience heart-filled joy and peace. 

Through my Spiritual Psychology studies, therapy, coaching, and yoga, I have learned to trust loved ones, appreciate connections, and treat myself lovingly. Treating myself with respect and self-nurturing comes naturally now. I share all of this with you because I am a strong proponent of doing my inner work to serve clients. I am a proponent of continuing to do healing practices and grow throughout my life. I have turned my life challenges into opportunities to heal and to help others.

 

Why Starting Therapy is Empowering

Why Starting Therapy is Empowering

Why Starting Therapy is Empowering

I want to emphasize that seeking therapy does not mean you are weak. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. Recognizing the need for support and taking proactive steps to prioritize your mental health and well-being is a sign of strength and resilience.

Therapy is not reserved for those who are “broken” or unable to cope on their own. Instead, it’s a valuable resource for anyone facing life’s challenges, big or small. Just as we visit a doctor for physical ailments or a mentor for professional guidance, therapy provides a safe and supportive space to explore our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.

Life can be complex and overwhelming at times, and it’s okay to seek help navigating its twists and turns. Therapy offers a unique opportunity to gain insight, develop coping strategies, and cultivate self-awareness and personal growth.

I’ve witnessed countless individuals, from all walks of life, experience profound transformation and healing through therapy. It takes courage to confront our inner struggles and vulnerabilities, and therapy provides a compassionate and nonjudgmental environment to do so.

Remember, seeking therapy is an act of self-care and self-love. It’s a courageous step towards greater self-understanding, resilience, and fulfillment. So, if you’re considering therapy, know that you are not flawed for reaching out. You are taking a powerful and empowering step.

Contact me today if you have been considering therapy for a while and are as ready as you can be to get started!

Embracing Change: A Guide to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)

Embracing Change: A Guide to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)

Embracing Change: A Guide to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)

ACT, developed by Steven C. Hayes and his colleagues, is a mindfulness-based cognitive therapy that emphasizes acceptance of difficult thoughts and feelings while committing to actions that enrich one’s life. At its core, ACT aims to cultivate psychological flexibility—the ability to adapt and respond effectively to life’s challenges.

Understanding The Six Core Processes of ACT:

1. Acceptance:

Acceptance in ACT involves embracing thoughts, emotions, and sensations without judgment or attempts to control them. Instead of struggling against discomfort, you learn to make room for difficult experiences, allowing them to exist without resistance. By accepting reality as it is, you can free yourself from the grip of emotional struggle and move toward a more fulfilling life.

2. Cognitive Defusion:

Cognitive defusion refers to distancing yourself from unhelpful thoughts and gaining perspective on them. Instead of being entangled in the content of thoughts, you learn to see them as passing events in the mind. Through techniques such as metaphor, humor, or repetition, you can reduce the impact of negative self-talk and limiting beliefs, creating space for more adaptive responses.

3. Being Present:

Being present, or mindfulness, is a cornerstone of ACT. By bringing focused attention to the present moment, you can observe your thoughts, emotions, and sensations without getting caught up in them. Mindfulness practices such as meditation, body scans, or mindful breathing cultivate awareness and help you connect more deeply with your inner experience.

4. Self as Context:

Self as Context involves recognizing the ever-changing nature of the self and developing a perspective that transcends your thoughts and emotions. You learn to differentiate between the “thinking self” (the content of thoughts) and the “observing self” (the awareness of those thoughts). By identifying with the observing self, you can cultivate a sense of inner stability and resilience, even amidst life’s challenges.

5. Values:

Values in ACT refer to what truly matters to you —those guiding principles and aspirations that give life meaning and purpose. Through exploration and clarification of values, you identify what you want your life to stand for and what actions align with those values. By living in accordance with your values, you can experience a deeper sense of fulfillment and authenticity.

6. Committed Action:

Committed Action involves taking intentional steps toward living a values-based life, despite the presence of discomfort or uncertainty. You set meaningful goals aligned with your values and commit to taking consistent action toward their realization. Through small, manageable steps, you build momentum and resilience, gradually expanding your capacity to live authentically and purposefully.

Incorporating Acceptance and Commitment Therapy into my practice has been profoundly rewarding. By guiding clients through the six core processes of ACT—Acceptance, Cognitive Defusion, Being Present, Self as Context, Values, and Committed Action—I’ve witnessed remarkable transformations in their ability to navigate life’s challenges with grace and resilience.

ACT offers a roadmap for cultivating psychological flexibility and living a more meaningful life, grounded in acceptance, mindfulness, and values-driven action. By embracing change and committing to personal growth, individuals can unlock their true potential and create a life rich in purpose and fulfillment.

You are welcome to reach out if you are interested in learning more about how I can guide you through the six core processes of ACT in therapy.